For
Every Hour of Every Day
Things
that I learned through our marriage which I pass on to you.
| To Hold and to Cherish |
Allowing the thought that it is the wrong person is detrimental to your relationship. You’re married! It is too late. “What God has joined together, let no man separate.” So make the best out of your marriage.
3.Your
spouse is not Jesus and not perfect; only Jesus is perfect. Only
Jesus can meet your deepest needs as He is the source of your life
not any person or things.
5.
Find time for a “circle of two,” for prayer and Bible reading.
Your family is a "miniature church."
6.
“Clean hands and a pure heart”- let this be your prayer.
7.
Your first year together is only a year of romance. Years of true
love are coming. So hang on. If there is no wine left, Jesus can
still do miracles. He loves to give to those who ask him. He is
always for you and your marriage.
8.
Love is a decision, not just feelings. The commitment you make on your wedding day is to your spouse and to God.
9.
To honor and love each other in words and deeds is also a decision,
a daily decision may be an hourly decision. Seek opportunities to
give not just receive.
10.
Be determined to strive and work hard for a great marriage. If there
is a will there is a way. God will give you the desires of your
heart. To have a great marriage, the partners need to be authentic
and transparent. So there may be differences in opinion on various issues.
11.
“Don’t let the sun go down on your anger.” Control your temper
and be polite when you argue.
When you discuss difficult issues, make
sure to at least hold each other’s hand. Learn to solve these
disagreements constructively to avoid big “blow ups” that
devastates the relationships.
12.
Forsake the “blame game.” It started in the Garden of Eden. It
is not your spouse’s fault.
14. Say sorry even when you know your spouse has wronged you in the particular incident. You reap the result in great measure.
15. Never compare your spouse with anybody. Comparing is unfair. Your spouse is unique.
16. Do not take your spouse for granted for they have chosen to love you and to make your life brighter each day even by simple acts of kindness. Be thankful. It is also applicable to your family members and your friends.
17. Your spouse is your best friend next to Jesus. See that you value your relationship with your spouse in the midst of the pressures of life.
18. Listen to your mate. Communicate verbally and non-verbally.
19. Encourage each other. Next to God you are your spouse’s best cheer leader.
20. Find time to have fun and laugh. Create opportunities to reminiscence your “good old days.”
21. Let each of your “cup of love” be filled with your spouse’s love. It is a safety measure against temptation. Our efforts to participate in God’s vision will be effective when we are at peace with ourselves.
22. If you know a particular thing is God’s will for your life do not hesitate to accomplish it. It is part of being a mature person. This will only lead to fulfillment in marriage.
23. Difficult times develop pearls and rubies in your marriage. These times help one to “taste and see that the Lord is good.” It also provides fertile ground to grow in love towards each other and to appreciate how others care for us.
24. Taking time to bless your extended family, your church, and those in need is an opportunity to bring a smile in the lives of others.
I wrote the first draft of this piece of writing to give it to my youngest sister when she got married in June 1998. My daughter told told me one day "I do not want daddy to get old any more." I explained to her the joys of getting old. One of the joys of getting old is to see the fruits of our hard work to build great marriage and family.
16. Do not take your spouse for granted for they have chosen to love you and to make your life brighter each day even by simple acts of kindness. Be thankful. It is also applicable to your family members and your friends.
17. Your spouse is your best friend next to Jesus. See that you value your relationship with your spouse in the midst of the pressures of life.
18. Listen to your mate. Communicate verbally and non-verbally.
19. Encourage each other. Next to God you are your spouse’s best cheer leader.
20. Find time to have fun and laugh. Create opportunities to reminiscence your “good old days.”
21. Let each of your “cup of love” be filled with your spouse’s love. It is a safety measure against temptation. Our efforts to participate in God’s vision will be effective when we are at peace with ourselves.
22. If you know a particular thing is God’s will for your life do not hesitate to accomplish it. It is part of being a mature person. This will only lead to fulfillment in marriage.
23. Difficult times develop pearls and rubies in your marriage. These times help one to “taste and see that the Lord is good.” It also provides fertile ground to grow in love towards each other and to appreciate how others care for us.
24. Taking time to bless your extended family, your church, and those in need is an opportunity to bring a smile in the lives of others.
I wrote the first draft of this piece of writing to give it to my youngest sister when she got married in June 1998. My daughter told told me one day "I do not want daddy to get old any more." I explained to her the joys of getting old. One of the joys of getting old is to see the fruits of our hard work to build great marriage and family.
